If there are two things in this world that I love and cherish, they’re sex and language. For whatever reason, so many of the little phrases we use to describe sex are overly aggressive and violent in nature. OK, the reason is probably patriarchal in nature if we do all the math on that and show our

In horse racing, a superfecta is achieved when one picks the first four horses to cross the finish line in a given race: win, place, show, and whatever the hell fourth place is called. It’s a pretty rare feat to pick four winners, and it takes both skill and more than a touch of luck. Replace

"What's your definition of self-love?" my friend Rebecca asked me."It's an awareness of how your actions, your whole being, affect the people you come in contact with," I responded. Another friend smirked at me and said, "Oh, really? You want to talk about self-awareness? Your stomach was hanging

I love to bake and I love sex.While I write about sex professionally, I'm more likely to be found giving my friends tips on how to make the chewiest chocolate chip cookies than I am to be giving tips to have the best sex of your life. It has long been my dream that someday I would be able to

“Expect it to hurt.”“Just get it over with.”“Don’t give it to just anyone.”The advice I heard about sex as a kid gave me a pretty screwed up idea about first-time penis-in-vagina sex. And at the center of these ideas was one concept: virginity.Growing up, I heard so much about “losing your