I've always been an overachiever: I was top of every class, I took on three extra subjects in high school purely because I knew that I would do well in them, I graduated from high school with straight A's, I was awarded scholarships from three different universities, I completed a postgraduate

For as long as I can remember, I was the only black kid in my circle of friends. Even now, as an adult, I have only one close friend who is black. I don't really know why it is, but I have often found it difficult to relate to women of my own race. I grew up on Staten Island, the most suburban

Joy and I went to the tallest bar in the world for her last night in Hong Kong. At the top of the Ritz-Carlton Hong Kong, we could barely afford one drink each, so when both of our adult beverages were sipped into oblivion, we decided to share a "Dragontini." It was pink and sweet and ...Continue

You can call it karma, I suppose. What one friend did to me wasn't quite the same as what I did to another friend, but I'm sure she's thinking that I got what was coming to me when I got dumped by someone I really liked.I can't help but think that my tired, almost-37-year-old ass is way ...Continue

A year ago, I barely knew anything about polyamory. I just knew that one of my best friends' husbands had a crush on me — she's the one who told me about it — and that I reciprocated his crush. Unhappy with my relationship at the time, I finally left him and started seeing said ...Continue